Creative Shame š³
No Creative Expression = Depression
Hello everybody,
Struggling with your creativity?
I am.
Perhaps you feel a bit lost and aimless.
I do.
You may be experiencing creative shame.
Yeah, me too.
This is normal.
Our creative identity is wrapped up in expressing ourselves.
When we canāt, we experience shame.
TLDR
We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
We NEED human connection.
This explains our distaste for small talk and our craving for deep conversation.
Mainstream society labels this as oversharing; I call it connecting.
Being creative is an act of spiritual generosity. By sharing our stories, we help others not feel alone.
We connect through stories.
If we donāt exercise our creative power, we feel lonely. Not just on a human level but deep in our souls.
If we donāt express ourselves creatively, we suppress our true selves. When weāre not aligned creatively, we get depressed.
We dim our lights. We isolate. We smother our creativity inside a box
Creative shame isolates us emotionally. Creatively. Spiritually.
Our inner critic fabricates stories.
Shame is an old Saxon word for ācoveringā or āhiding.ā
Our inner critics LOVE this.
They gorge on our insecurities and spew relentless bile on mental loops.
This is true of all creative people.
The more successful they are, the less worthy they feel and the bigger the creative blocks.
āWhen youāre living for the approval of strangers, and thatās where you derive all of your joy and fulfilment, one bad thing can cause everything to crumble.ā ā Taylor Swift
āI had enormous self-image problems and very low self-esteem, which I hid behind obsessive writing and performing. I really felt so utterly inadequate.ā ā David Bowie
For me, itās creative overwhelm.
I create intuitively from curiosity or anxiety.
If something doesnāt feel authentic, I donāt post it.
I start an article on Monday morning. I write for a couple of hours every morning, creatively pottering about. Then I edit on Friday or Saturday and post it.
The world is on fire.
Monday, Iām anxious about the war, so I start writing about that.
Tuesday, Iām anxious about AI, so I flip to that.
Wednesday, Iām anxious about the national UK Meningitis B outbreak.
Thursday, I meet up with a former client (Hi Suze š) whoās super positive, and I feel like writing an inspirational article.
Friday, Iām anxious about the war again.
Our sensitivity is what makes us creative, but itās harder to live in the world.
When the world is on fire, weāre all over the place emotionally. I donāt know which emotion to channel.
If Iām overwhelmed emotionally, Iām overwhelmed creatively.
So I shut down.
I need to work on this.
When stuck, itās almost always because of shame or fear. Write about the shame wound to liberate yourself from it.
When you have writerās block, write about the writerās block.
Talk about it. Write about it. Make songs about it. Paint about it. Make videos about it
Purge the shame.
Once itās spoken, itās no longer shameful. Itās no longer hidden, and you can move forward.
It works.
It gets us out of our heads.
It gets us unstuck.
Iām doing it right now!
If you resonate with this, you donāt need to publish your work. Simply journaling morning pages style will help you process emotions.
If you donāt, youāll end up with the same shame loops.
Go create.







Thanks for this one! In February, I published my second book, the culmination of a quick and easy 2.5 years of work š
For the past month and a half since even the thought of working on other writing has been terrifying because I'm worn out! But that means this time has also left me feeling down, which is interesting given my book is about depression and anxiety and the creative journey...
Last week I started writing again, for a storytelling show, and it felt amazing to create again. I'm learning that just because the work is out in the world doesn't mean I don't need to continue being creative. I'll always need that, and I'm glad I get to practice it as part of my life. Thanks for your perfect articulation of this experience, as usual.
If anyone else has achieved a big creative goal and felt a bit lost afterwards, I highly recommend this youtube video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iPcGgAVZ70c which uses the Pixar movie Soul to talk about the Arrival Fallacy, Impact Bias, and Hedonic Adaptation.
Great post!